I don't meet people who don't find out I am poly before the topic of interest in one another crops up because I am very vocal about my family; which includea husband, bf, kids, grandkids.
There isn't a large community of polys here, and we live in the "Bible belt" of our state.
However- I see no point in deluding myself or someone else abou who I am and what to expect of me. Maybe that was part and parcel of being the black sheep of the family my whole life. I dont know. But it seems like a complete waste of my time to even consider someone unless they know who I am and accept me for who I am.
I had enough headaches and drama to get to the point in my life where I can freely be me. I don't intend to recerse back into the closet.
"Love As Thou Wilt"