What you're describing are reasonable, dissenting opinions. I'm fine with and expect such. Especially on the internet.
What I'm referring to are labels like "douchebag" and "totally deceitful". There's no need for that in a forum for hearing out differences of opinion.
Me - male, 42, poly, straight, in a serious relationship with Audrey, also casually dating.
Audrey - female, 20, poly, pansexual, also casually dating.