It seems like there's a flaw in the nomenclature of the dating sites. Some folks here "fix" the problem by being over-inclusive despite the I'll effects. Others are, perhaps, under-inclusive so fix the problem that's no fault of their own.
I really wish people would stop using judgmental words to describe the feeling that the others' opinion gives them.
Me - male, 42, poly, straight, in a serious relationship with Audrey, also casually dating.
Audrey - female, 20, poly, pansexual, also casually dating.