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Old 04-13-2010, 02:47 AM
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Sorry it was confusing before!!

I really agree with you-just that I have a more detailed expectation. I don't have the anxiety and so I can more clearly consider exactly what it is I want.

There is also the fact that where I live it's just not a big deal to be "blunt".

I am the poly-person in this situation. But that doesn't change my opinion on how relationships fall out in terms of priorities. I REALLY do believe that if she wants to be accepted as part of hte family-the way she needs to go about it is becoming A PART OF YOUR family. I.E. becoming important to YOU.
IF she does that-she COULD meet those people AS YOUR FRIEND and ultimately if she REALLY worked on her relationship with you-she could be a family friend.

No one thinks anything about seeing GG give me his arm to walk me across the parking lot, or helping me into the car when Maca isn't available to do so, becuase it's just the RIGHT way for a man to treat a woman who is important to them, and that's assuming he's "JUST" a family friend.

She's really being brainless in THAT aspect.

THAT being said from me, and I'm OUT about being poly. My whole family and my friends know I am poly. My whole family and friends know that GG is my boyfriend and Maca my husband. Maca's family knows too and GG's friends know.

BUT-there IS a protocol for how things WORK. It's not about "right" or "wrong". It's about does it WORK, is it FUNCTIONAL?

And her methodology-isn't functional.
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