When we told our kids the teenagers had already connected the dots. Smart kids.
As far as coming out to extended family, only Darla is out. None of us live near our family of origin so it isn't something that has really been a pressing issue. And it's nice that we have had some time for our relationship to grow and strengthen.
My own family is very religious. Mormons in fact. Polygamy is a bit of a hot topic as the main stream lds church looks down on it. I'm confident that once the shock wears off they will be accepting. But only time will tell.
Me - bi female hinge of a closed V / developing triad
Hank - my husband of 15 years.
Darla - long distance girlfriend of 1 year.
We have seven dependent children between us.