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Old 03-24-2014, 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted by primalcupcakes View Post
Eventually these two are going to have to meet and forge some kind of relationship. Especially because my ultimate fantasy is to get us all under the same roof (with patience and time and love and understanding, of course).
Be careful with this... Chops would have loved a "big family" type of poly relationship. I believe Xena liked the idea of a communal-type of living arrangement as well (sort of an artist's commune). The idea of sharing a home with people who aren't MY family of choice, however, just turns me right off.

Our reality didn't match up to Chops and Xena's (or MY) fantasies, and now we've ALL compromised on what we wanted in order to have something instead that works: two separate homes.

Having some kind of respectful relationship is a good goal, but remember to take baby steps, and if someone doesn't want more of a friendship, you can't push it past that point. Good luck.
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Me: 46/F, Divorced with 2 kids, 2 cats, fish, a tarantula, and a 1930s house with many projects.
Chops: 47/M, Partner of 6 years, lives half-time with me, half with Xena.
Spinner: 52/M, Friend I've been on a few dates with. Divorced, Mono, wrapping his head around it all.
Xena: 47/F, Chops' other nesting partner of 6 years
Curls: 50/F, Chops' partner of 1 year

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