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Old 03-24-2014, 05:27 PM
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I think it's common to focus on "what's happening now" and lose sight of "what I want for the future." It's also common to get into something, and then get doubtful as soon as it starts getting bumpy. Ask anyone who's gone through grad school -- it seemed like such a good idea at the time, but man, this is HARD!

Originally Posted by WhiteCloud View Post
I was prepared for difficult emotions, or so I thought. But with everything going way faster than I expected and becoming real so fast. I think I got overwhelmed by it all and allowed my feelings of discomfort make me doubt if I really wanted the whole poly thing or not.
There's nothing wrong with slowing things down and giving yourself time to adjust. Just because you have old feelings and shared history doesn't mean you can't pretend you're dating for the first time. Like LR said, emotions follow behaviour.

There's also no guarantee you wouldn't have gone just as fast with someone new.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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