Thank you GorgeousKitten! It is great to hear about your story, and how time (and new partners) helped ease things. It certainly gives me hope
And thank you Vanquish
Yes, I feel like I have really dealt with a lot of my issues for now, and fully embrace everything. What has helped me the most is NOT trying to project myself into how things will be in the future. That has brought me so much peace
(but that applies to life generally, not just the poly life).
Things are still very hard for my partner. But we talk and try to work through things. There doesn't appear to be one magical key hidden anywhere, so I just hope that we'll eventually succeed at getting past his boundaries...
Thanks again for your replies. It really did help!