LoveBunny, from reading your blog I can see you didn't handle NRE with Coco well at all, and neglected Arlo during that time. So now you've gone the other way, to a DADT and compartmentalization.
There is a happy medium to be sought for, where you don't have to hide a new love, but also don't neglect your original partner.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37