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I've had a look at your posts here and there so far (and posted in one of them
) and it looks like you and your husband are very sincere about wanting to give poly a try and do the job right, while you have some concerns about past situations in which you have been hurt and discovered some internal insecurities as well.
I don't see anything overwhelming that can't be overcome, you just have to take things in little steps at a time and not try to eat the whole elephant at once. For instance, I'd suggest not even trying to practice any poly living until you've taken some time to dig in and explore this site; there is so much collective wisdom and experience you can learn from. Find out what kind of obstacles others have faced, what did and didn't work. To that end, the Poly Relationships Corner
and Life stories and blogs board
can be particularly useful. But the point is, take your time and bask in the learning process before attempting your first dive off the high dive at the deep end. Make sure you know how to swim and that you have a reasonable comfort level with things.
Whenever I post on a thread, I always start following that thread so you can come to me with questions/concerns anytime you need to, and you'll find that lots of other people here will be there to help you too. Just let us know what would help the most, and feel free to share your thoughts whatever they may be.
Anyway, just wanted to let you know I was glad to meet you and read your initial posts.
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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