Thanks so much for sharing this post. I am totally new to open/poly idea, so honestly didn't get all of that, but what I did get was information that telling me how I feel is totally ok.
I have past damage (emotional) from a first marriage, and it's the only thing that is preventing me from going into poly lifestyle with no fears. I realize it's my problem, and the line about us being used to love being snatched from us and being broken to not fix it hit the nail on the head. That's what makes me hesitant. I love my husband with all my heart and don't want my poly desires and/or the idea of him having someone else ruin our relationships.