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Feeling like a third wheel is indeed a common occurrence in triad formulation, so don't read too much into it unless there there are red-flag behaviors in one or both of your triad partners. Love is always a risk whether monogamous or polyamorous.
Your open-minded approach is commendable, and I particularly think you should be commended for not pooh-poohing monogamy just because it is "the old thing" and thus supposedly "less evolved" or whatever. I am pretty sure that monogamy is the best thing for some people, polyamory the best for others, and in many cases a person could be satisfied going either way.
I hope Polyamory.com proves helpful to you, as a listening ear or whatever you'll need. It sounds like you're fixing to do a thread on another board (the Poly Relationships Corner
perhaps); if you do, post a link in this thread leading to that new thread and I'll check it out.
Glad you could join us.
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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