Originally Posted by RedPanda
No, I meant to say that one should not measure poly relationships at all. I would simply look at how happy someone is in the poly lifestyle versus another lifestyle. Or any other basis of comparison.
You make it sound like all polyfolk lead the same kind of lifestyle. There are numerous kinds of lifestyles in which people can incorporate the fact of having multiple loving relationships. That does not mean there is a definite common denominator among them, other than the fact of having multiple relationships. And it definitely doesn't mean there is any such thing as "the poly lifestyle."
See: What is this "lifestyle" you mention?
In addition, there are plenty of people out there involved in multiple, loving relationships, conducted openly and with transparency, who do not identify with nor use the term polyamory.