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Old 03-13-2014, 11:57 PM
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**I did not read the thread-just the original post**

Boundaries.

Here's the thing that I think is missing in all of your conversations;
She has a right to decide what SHE will do with HER. But she doesn't have a right to tell you what to do with you.

In the case of your bed; she has every right to say SHE is not comfortable sleeping in your bed.
But she doesn't have a right to dictate who else does (including you).

She has a right to decide who sleeps in HER bed. But she can't make anyone else but her sleep in her bed.

Likewise-you have a right to decide who is allowed to sleep in your bed. But not who WILL.
You have a right to decide if you are willing to sleep in her bed but you don't have a right to decide if you are allowed to.

She seems to really fail to grasp where her rights end and yours begin. THAT needs addressed.

It's not about the bed, the sex, the boyfriend etc.

It's about boundaries.
She has a right to make boundaries regarding HERSELF and HER PERSONAL belongings.
Nothing more.
End of story.

until she accepts that-she won't be able to have a healthy relationship with you or anyone else. No amount of love is going to change that. Because even with love, you still need to understand the parameters of what is yours and what is not yours.
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