Thing is, do we really measure the success of a romantic relationship by its duration? Isn't "til death do us part" a monogamous patriarchal structure anyway?
And in this day and age, with the way people travel, pull up roots to follow a job, for school, to care for a relative, or just to see the world, there's a chance not all people in a polycule will be able to move when one partner wants to or needs to.
What is more a measure of success? A relationship that lasts for 3 or 4 years, brings both partners joy and personal growth, ends on a good note, or a miserable marriage with minimal intimacy and respect, that lasts 30 or 50 years?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, poly, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 37