Originally Posted by EugenePoet
Trust me on this: she's going to really really enjoy watching you become a more confident and secure guy. If she can help you she's going to remember that with pleasure for a long time.
I would dearly love for her to feel that way about my situation. I hope that is things turn out that way.
We had a date night together this past Thursday night. I took her out for barbecue, and to spend the night on a ranch in an old house after watching the sunset.
Our date went well, but my timing was off regarding sex. She was awake in the middle of the night, and I talked to her, but I didn't try to have sex with her. In the morning I asked her if she likes having sex in the middle of the night. She replied, "yes, but not every single time". Then, for lunch yesterday, I chose to eat first with her. She gave me the option in a text message. We had sex after eating, and I could tell that she was only into it for me to get off. I asked her what it would have taken for her to want to have an orgasm (she didn't even attempt it), and she said, "just a little more time". Then she said, "maybe if we would have tried having sex first, then eating after". I realized that she was into the idea of me coming into the house, and moving with urgency and passion. My decision to eat first was a damper.
She masturbated after lunch, just after I left, and sent me a text message telling me that she used a toy that I had brought along.
45 minutes after lunch, I slipped off to the old house to catch her before she drove off. We talked and kissed. After a bit of toying with the idea, we ran back in the house for more sex. I couldn't get a full erection, but I still used it for 20 minutes or so. I finally gave up, and she had an orgasm with my fingers rubbing her front wall, and her's on her clitoris.
Right now I'm feeling like I am boring, and that my dates are boring in comparison to what she does with her other boyfriend. They are going to a vibrant alternative dance show tonight in the city. It's a bit hippie, and very party-like!
This morning I was up at 4:30 am. I was thinking about my bad timing yesterday, and how she will have an exciting time with her other boyfriend tonight, and till tomorrow afternoon. I couldn't fall back asleep. I felt nervousness and anxiety.
I feel that I have poor timing. I've realized this before, and it has been a challenge for me to make the right decision the first time.
How can I improve on my timing? I want to make the right decision the first time