Originally Posted by Quath
I am sorry your friend did not think he could accept polyamory. It does seem to have let you understand more about yourself.
I identify with most of what the OP said (except for her marriage - the part about couples counseling doesn't apply to my situation), especially as in the above quote from Quath.
My "other" guy seemed to believe that something was fundamentally wrong with my relationship with my husband that I should even CONSIDER any sort of "poly" arrangement, but it has actually made our marriage stronger.