Jeez, friskyone4u. Couple-centric much?
Not kowtowing a partner's ultimatum and helping them work through their issues and fears in therapy and in partnership with each other is not the same as saying "my way or the highway." Duh.
When you open up a marriage, you have to remember there are other people's hearts and feelings involved. You can't unring a bell.
The world opens up... when you do.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein