Originally Posted by newpoli
Do you put limits on how often they can see their partners? Or when they can see each other? Or do you put limits on how their physical relationship can progress? I'm trying determine if I'm just reacting poorly to my circumstances because I am inexperienced or if there's something else going on that should be raising red flags for me.
You can put whatever restrictions you like; but if they seem unfair your partner will either resent or ignore them. I don't have any problem with putting restrictions on physical behavior; though I do find it pointless. It's not what I consider "poly," though it does seem to qualify as non-monogamy. You're going to find you run into even more problems, however, if you try to control his emotions.