I'm shy. Alcohol makes that go away. I have sober sex with my husband, but honestly, in the short time since I've had relations outside the marriage, yeah, I usually drink on my dates. I suspect if/when I find someone who is a keeper, I'll relax with them and that need to have a few glasses of wine before being capable of uninhibited sex will go away.
Female, bi-amorous, mid 40's
on the spectrum between poly-amorous and monogam-ish
girlfriend Melinda, lesbian, early 30's