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Old 04-09-2010, 01:39 PM
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here are the answers I tend to give people that bring up those questions:

Originally Posted by ladyjools View Post
Don't you get jelous?
Yes I do.

Originally Posted by ladyjools View Post
How do you deal with Jelousy?
I see jealousy as a symptom of an underlying problem - someone not getting what they feel they need or deserve. Dealing with it means trying to get to the bottom of what is causing it - seek first to understand. Then the underlying problem needs to be dealt with.

Isn't one enough?
Enough for what? if you have a friend that is a very good friend, should they be offended when you have a second friend? Does having a second friend mean that the first wasn't good enough in some way? When you have a second child, does it mean you screwed up on the first in some way so that you absolutely need another?

[Their usual response to this is
"Yes, but this is different - you can't compare",
and I ask "why shouldn't I? This is about relationships"
"Yes but it's a different type of relationship"
Those discussions rarely go far in my opinion....]

Where does everyone sleep?
With the greatest respect that's not something we talk about, any more than a monogamous couple shares their sleeping arrangements with the world.

What will you do when you have kids?
Be surprised, mostly, since none of us plan on having any.

"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb
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