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Old 04-09-2010, 01:39 PM
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here are the answers I tend to give people that bring up those questions:

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Don't you get jelous?
Yes I do.

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How do you deal with Jelousy?
I see jealousy as a symptom of an underlying problem - someone not getting what they feel they need or deserve. Dealing with it means trying to get to the bottom of what is causing it - seek first to understand. Then the underlying problem needs to be dealt with.


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Isn't one enough?
Enough for what? if you have a friend that is a very good friend, should they be offended when you have a second friend? Does having a second friend mean that the first wasn't good enough in some way? When you have a second child, does it mean you screwed up on the first in some way so that you absolutely need another?

[Their usual response to this is
"Yes, but this is different - you can't compare",
and I ask "why shouldn't I? This is about relationships"
"Yes but it's a different type of relationship"
Those discussions rarely go far in my opinion....]

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Where does everyone sleep?
With the greatest respect that's not something we talk about, any more than a monogamous couple shares their sleeping arrangements with the world.

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What will you do when you have kids?
Be surprised, mostly, since none of us plan on having any.
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