Originally Posted by Marco
Criteria? It does sound lighter and I suppose expected in any kind of committed relationship.
My main gripe is when a rule/criteria seems have to faded with time only to come back and cause more imposition. Sort of like a dog who thought he was set loose and sets off running, then bamn!...the leash chokes the crap out of him. Eh, just have to deal with them at a reasonable and comfortable pace for all, huh?
It sounds like you have personally experienced something like this? I'm not sure it happens a lot. I have boundaries that can be shifted or modified, but my "criteria" is fundamental to who I am....there's no relaxing but an increase in stability as time goes on. If there is an issue with incomparable criteria than that will be looked at as will the relationship.
Care to share a bit more?