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Old 04-09-2010, 01:07 PM
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Well, then you have both misunderstood me I don't see how there can be any disrespect in a question
There was no disrespect in your question, or in your intent. I was pointing out that people who DO know me that believe that I am basically compromising "until the right person comes along" and that they could possibly be that right person are disrespecting me, my partners and my relationships. or that make sweeping statement along those lines about what polyamory REALLY is. Sometimes these are couched in terms of exploratory questions intending to challenge and question without respect.

Does that make sense now?


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how did you come to know that you were happiest being polyamorous? What led up to the decision to finally identify yourself that way?
Monogamy never ever felt right to me, ever since my teen years, and I spent a long time struggling with it, doing stupid things, hating myself, beating myself up about it, and definitely thinking I was a bad person.

I don't think there was a decision made to finally say I was poly... in one of my more destructive periods my partner essentially hit me over the head with a newspaper saying, angrily "Maybe THIS is what you are!" - it was an ad for a lecture in our area by Deborah Anapol...

So at least I had a name for it. There then followed a prolonged period of trying to crawl out of the emotional abyss that I was in.
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