I agree with all of you. The Secondary Bill of rights helped a lot to see all under a new light, thank you EugenePoet
Thank you LovingRadiance, I'm kind on envious of your V, I hope he would think more like you and not so much on his needs and desires. But at the same time as a secondary I must choose what I consider the best for me and what I'm capable of doing, and since they as primaries have stablished this 'rule' and need for it to be present, then I have do to what is best for myself.
Thank you all of you guys, your different perspectives have given me the strenght I seemed to be lacking to stand for myself. I'll talk to them tonight. Wish me luck!