Oh- and also- for a bisexual woman who is looking for a female partner- it's hard to find one that doesn't come with a male counterpart unless you want to date a lesbian and there aren't many lesbians that want to date married women. So- my point is that a lot of people enter the lifestyle looking for the available bisexual women- and they end up having to deal with the male partners of those women.
And in dealing with the male partners, all sorts of things happen like falling in love and stuff like that! So- that's what poly is - allowing ourselves to feel and express love for multiple partners. And allowing our partners to feel and express love for other people too. It's awesome when you can let go!
The key to life is in being fully engaged and peacefully detached simultaneously and authentically in each moment.