Originally Posted by nycindie
You don't need poly for that. Monogamists search for truth and wisdom, too. Polyamorous relationships are certainly not the only path to enlightenment. It isn't the relationship structure that encourages anything; it's the people.
I suppose that is true. In my experience (perhaps this is a generational divide?), people who start a monogamous relationship with someone do it out of insecurity, feeling like they "need" someone, like they want a scripted role to fit into... It usually seems so fake and forced to me. It's not just that they chose monogamy, it's like they think it's the only thing there is, and they're terrified to consider otherwise. I guess to each their own path...
...I apologize for hijacking the thread >.>