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Old 02-26-2014, 02:14 AM
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Originally Posted by seakinganswers View Post

Your husbands experience trying to get laid is not out of the ordinary ...
They aren't married! They don't even live together, they only date once or twice a week.

Also, my wife has gained a lot of weight since we got married. Sexiness us a state of mind. Sure he like every man will be initially more attracted to a fitter woman, probably a younger one too.
Excuse me??? Lots of men adore women with curves much more than skinny minnies or athletic hard bodies. And there are plenty of men that don't care about a few years age difference, or even a decade or two. Older women can be far sexier and far more self confident ,than green twenty-somethings. Age can confer a delicious confidence and sensuality.

But that doesn't mean in the long run he will find her sexier and even if he does, that sex won't have the intimacy that the two of you have. Sex without intimacy is only fun occasionally. At the end of the day the intimacy you share with him should always have him desiring you. If it doesn't then your relationship probably isn't worth it anyways.

Not much other advice I can offer really. I only wish I was more experienced.
This I agree with.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62)
Pixi (poly, F, 40) together since 2009
My bf Kahlo (poly-friendly, M, 45) since August 2017
Master, (mono, M, 36), Pixi's bf for 5 years
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