Originally Posted by JadeDoor
I've been seeing the same counselor for about five years now. I love her. She really challenges my view points on things and doesn't just sit back and listen for an hour. I walk out feeling refreshed and sometimes I have "homework" to work on. I love it.
Anyway, she is very anti poly. She says she has never once seen it work and that it often destroys lives. I'm not sure what to say to that. Yes, my marriage ended, but not because of poly. Because he was physically and emotionally abusive of me and was not the right person to be involved in polyamory (or any relationship) with.
I don't want to have to find a new counselor, but I worry that her view points may cloud her ability to help me with other issues.
It's unlikely that she would ever see people in a successful poly relationship because they would not seek her out, just as successful mono couples do not. So of course she has never seen poly work. And unlike mono couples, poly people are often closeted, so another avenue to know successful poly people is barred. Therefore her view is skewed. Perhaps, she would consider doing actual research to better educate herself?