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Old 02-24-2014, 07:55 PM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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Let me try phrasing it this way... If you put all those in order of preference over time or in buckets, what order/buckets would they be in? Because you cannot have all these at the same time right now. Here's my guess... correct what I guess wrong.

DEALBREAKERS (without these, I can't be in healthy relationship here)
  • I want my wife to understand poly me.
  • I want my wife to stop doing (list behaviors).
  • I want my wife to start trusting me by (list behaviors).

(in this order, or some other order?)

WILLING TO BENDS
  • If she can trust me, then I am willing to try keep my monogamous marriage even though I don't want monogamous marriage for myself.

UNFILED / COULD LIVE WITHOUT?
  • I want to be in an open relationship with my wife.
  • I want to be in an open relationship even without my wife.
  • I want (something else?)

It's hard to suggest things if I don't know your desired outcome at this time. Or which ones are dealbreakers/hard limits for you, and which are soft limits or "could live withouts" for you.

Galagirl

Last edited by GalaGirl; 02-24-2014 at 08:38 PM.
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