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Old 02-24-2014, 04:45 AM
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The situation that ticks you off is almost like a sitcom, if you think about it. Two guys interested in the same chick, chatting her up, competing for her attention; the friend who introduced her to the first guy is upset that the second one hit on this chick, too, as if being first to meet her means he's got first dibs, like she's a hot new toy and doesn't have a mind of her own. Words fly, accusations, misunderstandings, blablabla... and everyone has forgotten that the woman in question will choose whomever she wants, or neither of them, in her own time, and according to her desires and preferences - so all this drama and taking offense is pointless.

Has anyone bothered to ask J if she's interested in either one of them?
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