You have a say here. Tell them what your requirements are. Put a time limit on how long you're willing to work through this before you chose to walk away. The way things are going at the moment you are not being treated as a full, living, breathing human being with real feelings. Her feelings do not trump yours unless you let them. You teach people how to treat you by what you will accept.
Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.