Yes, they can be. The best way to do it is to join a website called FetLife. It's a BDSM community and doesn't cost anything. Birmingham has lots of meetings and all sorts of great people show up.
If you're ever in Montgomery and want to talk about things, let me know in advance.
Hope you find what you're looking for.
Me - male, 42, poly, straight, in a serious relationship with Audrey, also casually dating.
Audrey - female, 20, poly, pansexual, also casually dating.