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Old 02-18-2014, 01:20 PM
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As someone who does have a mono partner who has made it work well for 2 years I will say R sounds like poison. He wants his cake and eat it too. To be honest he could be looking to build his harem.

You guys have a serious lack of time. Honestly I do not think while life is so and quality time constrained is not the time to add more commitments. Poly has the habit of illuminating every crack and flaw a relationship has.

I am an INTJ female. While I love fiercely talking about my feelings can be torture and hard to express. But I have learned that I need to communicate with Butch and listen to his side too. He isn't a mind trade. I would ask your wife if she us willing to risk your relationship for R.
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