Re (from Spiritowl
"The two girls are willing and love him. They are looking for him to put more effort in. He really cannot seem to find what he needs. I think he is truly in search mode for his sexuality. He is bisexual."
Hummm, T is perhaps trying to decide if he wants a relationship with a man?
In general, it sounds like you and T have things worked out reasonably well; just a bump in the road now and then. Polyamory is an ongoing journey and ever a work in progress, I think.