Schroed-That is a large part of how this "approach" became our approach to meeting new people etc.
I'm not keen on the pressure for sex "early on" which seemed to always encompass "going out".
I find it safer for me to get to know people in a friendly, social environment where sex isn't on the table.
There's no rule that we HAVE to do that individually. In fact, Maca has been known to go out with his prospective's on his own for several months before inviting them over or introducing them.
But I don't do that.
It should be noted, that it's ok with us that other people aren't like this. But I'm not "desperately seeking". Like Alanis Morisette's song 21 Things I want in a Lover; She says something about she has a choice in the matter.
Well, I have a choice in the matter, I can be choosey and I'm totally ok with that lowering the pool of potentials, because I would rather have someone who is comfortable with the REAL me, my REAL life and my REAL circumstances, than someone who is trying to change me.
People who have circumstances that are compatible, feel relieved. People who aren't compatible, don't press for a romance.