Originally Posted by ImaginaryIllusion
but I think I came across a similar difficulty in communications, and feelings of selfishness in asking for things which would conventionally be regarded as wrong.
(btw...did anyone else see Mono refer to poly in the possessive?)
Just to be clear, I was not asking for anything that would be considered even remotely traditionally wrong LOL! I hope my statement wasn't taken as asking for anything that would go against my monogamous nature...I am hopelessly monogamous and very comfortable in that...I don't want to be anything else. I like being me.
Not to repeat myself, I fully identify Redpepper and my relationship as distinctly mono/poly. I am in a poly relationship though and therefore yes I referred to it as "our" poly...you got me
As far as what security within the community meant, Redpepper and me know what the basis for that is. That is something she can share if she chooses...I am just happy to be able to move on, forward, and towards a long loving and family filled future