If being separate does not mean "less time" how does one deal with the childcare and housework that the partner is left with during that time? How does the partner at home get their equal free time if they do not have an outside partner?
I think my situation may be particular though because my husband works most nights and because of child is 11; therefore too old for a babysitter, took young to be alone for long stretches.
Sometimes being poly (which was meant to make me freer and more of a feminist) makes me feel more trapped (I'm doing housework all weekend so a husband can play with his lover).
I think poly can be a lot more fluid when there are not kids involved. What do you think?