Originally Posted by bofish
His girlfriend wants to have her relationship entirely separate from me and his family.
See, I relate to this. It's her choice to want something totally separate; there are consequences to that. My partner has two of us. She wants a relationship completely separate from me (and from his poly life). She also wants her poly life separate from him. As a result, she gets less time with him than I do. But if I insisted that my time with him be isolated from her and his family, I'D be the one losing out on time.
You have to accommodate all parts of a person's life, kids, pets, significant others, work, hobbies, friends.... If you don't want contact with one or more of those, you get less time. Simple as that