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Old 02-12-2014, 06:18 AM
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I could never bring myself to refer to anyone I am in a relationship with as secondary. Nor would I want to be considered or treated as secondary.

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Originally Posted by PolyinPractice View Post
Primary/secondary does not necessarily have to mean hierarchy; it could mean degree of connection.
And what does "degree of connection" mean, exactly? That sounds hierarchical to me.

Suffice it to say that there are plenty of people out there who do not use the terms "primary" or "secondary" and prefer a more egalitarian approach to polyamory, in whatever way that manifests in their lives.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/

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