Originally Posted by kamala
I mean, how many people here would be happy being monogamous if exactly the 100% right person came along, that fulfilled all your needs etc?
I wouldn't be, no matter how good the person was.
The idea of people being poly because their existing partner isn't good enough is a little condescending in my opinion. Yes, there may well be some people out there who are doing it for that reason, but there are a lot who are doing it because that's how they are wired. By the way you're not the first person who has drawn this conclusion that I have heard - I get it a lot when I talk about polyamory to my monogamous friends - I have also seen people try to date poly folk in order to "convert them" thinking that they are "good enough" to not make them want to be poly any more.
To me that shows a fundamental misunderstanding of (or lack of respect for) what is going on in my mind and how I choose to live my life.