Originally Posted by london
You could have HPV and not know. Men cannot be tested. Your wife could be fluid bonding with a carrier. If getting it is a hard limit, PIA or PIV sex with any man should be off limits and gloves and barriers for manual and oral sex. Picking and choosing when the science matters is just perpetuating stigma.
There is also the option of getting vaccinated against the high-risk and common strains of HPV. Generally insurance doesn't pay for it if you are over 26 but you do have the option to pay for it out of pocket.