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Old 02-09-2014, 01:09 AM
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Default Married couple with children seek permanent companion

I'm sure you've all heard/seen it all so we assume no judgment just as we cast none.

We are a younger couple, married for almost 6 years, with two very young children. We are looking for a male (or possibly female) companion to join our family permanently. We'd expect him to participate in the family as a whole, being a parent to our children as we are. He needs to have either a long-term job or education/special skill to contribute to the financial pool. Be between the ages of 25-35 preferably. I want to emphasize we are NOT seeking a sexual relationship for either of us. Ideally our new family member might be asexual and seeking a family or a gay, sexually monogamous couple even? If not, know that we are not okay with this person having sexual or romantic relationships outside of our family. We are both heterosexual and sexually monogamous, and so our ideas feel set but we have not encountered anyone who would fit our family yet, so our feelings may change on some things as they progress.

Our companion will receive love, support, intimacy, and be an equal in the family in every way. Do not reply if you would be depriving yourself of anything by potentially joining us. If you need sex, we cannot give you that. My husband and I are doing this to find someone who can fill the parts of our relationship that we cannot for each other, and in doing so, have a triad of complete emotional, intellectual, and family support.

If you’re thinking “you want someone to come fix your relationship”, let me elaborate. My husband and I have been together, nearly every day, for 7 years. We married young, old souls compared to anyone we knew, and watched each other grow and mature. During this we learned a lot about each other and our desires for our marriage. For years we have worked on several issues that keep us from being our best for each other, and after ample effort and soul searching, we have realized the issues are personality traits that neither of us are capable of changing. We are who we are, but still need what we need. Other than that we are incredibly compatible and have never stopped trying to make our relationship the best possible for each other. We share interests, love our life, and live comfortably. However, the issues that cannot be resolved are major areas of need for both of us. So we started toying with the idea of someone who could fit the gaps like a puzzle piece and join us in our life. We don’t want to throw out a wonderful marriage or deprive each other of basic needs. We know that we have a lot to offer another person in our life and would all benefit if we find a good match. This person would not be used or a separate entity from our marriage. We want to love you too and share our lives together.

A bit about us:
Wife is funny, very loving, intelligent, competent, and highly emotionally aware. She is realistic but hopes big and falls hard, loves to plan but not execute, can be moody and irritable, loves to research health and science, likes to dance, and engage in intelligent debate. Our struggling point: emotional needs not met because husband lacks the ability to respond appropriately to emotions (possible Asperger’s in regard to social and emotional situations, wife is highly aware of body language and mood shifts so you can imagine the frustration this causes when things go awry). Ideal companion will be able to understand emotions from any source and put those of your family first and reply appropriately when emotions arise. I seek intimacy from this emotional connection and hope it will also build a better bond between all three of us.

Husband is a genius. Interests include math (career), science, astronomy, politics, geography, and history...anything scholarly. He enjoys playing games of all sorts (MTG). He is highly realistic, thrives on comfort and facts, and is a gentle man. His idea of fun is relaxing with a beer and playing a game or talking about something educational. He is quiet but extremely witty. He prefers to let other’s plan unless it’s related to money. Our struggling point: inability to meet emotional needs is causing him to miss out on the basic joys of friendship and feeling content. Ideal companion will help the wife with emotional needs and engage with him (and wife) on a deep friendship level.

More about us as a couple: on top of needing a very specific person, we have an odd lifestyle that we do not intend to change. We do not watch cable. We do not watch sexual material of any sort (so our movie/show options are limited to either children material or educational, though there are many movies and shows that are clean and enjoyable). We can explain this later if you are curious. We don’t let many people into our lives and put our family above all. For this reason we prefer someone who feels the same and wouldn’t mind living in a bubble with us. We live very comfortable financially with only one of us working. Although experience with children is not required, the desire to have them is obvious. We are not religious and believe in science but accept that some fill their spiritual needs in other ways. We are well versed in the bible and love to discuss it despite ultimately not believing it.

There is plenty we can cover in private conversation. If you’ve reached this far you’re either bored and passing time, waiting to see what other crazy shit we want, or considering! Do not contact us unless you understand what we are asking for and could see yourself doing it. Thanks.
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