Congrats on coming so far in being honest about who you really are. If we can't be ourselves in this life, what is the point? Really.
I also lived a lie of monogamy for a long time, although I didn't even have religion as an excuse (being atheist with pagan leanings since my teens), but just traditional cultural programming.
You might check out our Spirituality board here, as well as get a copy of Opening Up.
Be patient with your wife. The concept of polyamory or polysexuality can be extremely difficult to accept for some. You might even need couples counseling with a poly-friendly therapist, especially since you have a history of cheating to overcome.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags, F, 60, poly-dating, loving and living with
miss pixi, F, 38
Punk, 42, M (dating since Oct 2015)
and a few more casual relationships