Me I choose not to have weak partners.
If either of my husbands developed toxic behaviors tor habits hey would be tossed out of my and my children lives so quick their heads would spin. Neither man would tolerate such behavior from me either. There is no need for a veto power.
There is no need to enforce rules over the other relationship of my partners.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.