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Old 02-06-2014, 03:37 PM
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Not to sound cynical, but this is also a very good reason to have your BF there with you. What she hears through her fear may be very different from what you end up thinking you've said. It'd be good to have all of you there if she feels she needs support, or she thinks you've said something hurtful that you didn't intend to come across in that manner.

Not that your BF should have to be a mediator, but having his own interpretation of the talk (rather than getting a she-said/she-said version) will be a good thing.
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