Sigh. Everyone wants to form a perfect triad and they are all "different than all the other couples." You can find a dozen ads on Fetlife advertising for a unicorn. And no actual examples of a couple successfully finding a woman "together" that they can "share equally."
Nycindie, as a unicorn, I appreciate your efforts to educate them on what they need to do to find that right woman. But you're wasting your breath, and honestly they're harmless. Let em try and fail at finding a woman who loves them both "equally."
I'm patient enough to find the right couple (especially as I'm not limiting myself to ONE couple, but am developing my own relationships as well). Any woman with self worth, as I do believe I am, will not want anything to do with couples like that, so it's their loss, no one else's.