Originally Posted by Cohagen
Why? Offering a different point of view based on personal experience. Sure it's not sunshine and lolli-pops but it's valid none the less. Any other questions? (not trying to be sarcastic, but willing engage in civil respectful debate.)
You seem to miss the fact that none of us on this board condone cheating. Cheating is not polyamory. Ethical non-monogamy means that all of the players in the relationship are informed from the get go AND consent. Your wife did none of these things. She cheated, plain and simple. She can call it polyamory, she can call it sky blue turkey, but what she called it and what she did are two very different things.
If a partner of mine lied to me and cheated, I would be angry too.