I haven't called anyone names or flamed anyone either. I'm just saying this lifestyle isn't the rose garden you and so many may think it to be. I read quite a few poly blogs where people have written about things going very very bad. usually husbands getting quite bent out shape and children suffering for it.
My wife flat-out called it poly to my face told me everyone does it these days and that's how it's going to be and I had to accept her desire for this other guy and I told her to her pack-up and be gone when I get back in a very calm and non threatening way. I refuse to be violent with women in any situation.
I answer every boo hoo poor me phone call she makes and i listen to her but I tell her gently you made your choice now deal with it like a grown up I can't help you anymore.
If any of you can make it work or pull it off bully for you.