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Old 02-05-2014, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by kangarookid View Post
. . . I was pretty excited to be able to have what would be a really rewarding polycule.
Well, that's nice, except that a "really rewarding polycule" sounds like an object to obtain or goal to reach instead of what it really entails - flesh-and-blood people enmeshing their lives with all their feelings, desires, baggage, hurts, societal and familial programming, needs, wishes, etc. mixed in.

Ask yourself what you have to offer this woman. What benefit would she get out of being involved with you? Could it be enough for her to possibly only have a short-term fling for less than 90 days? It is more than just how it benefits you and your wife.
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