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Old 02-05-2014, 08:33 AM
kangarookid kangarookid is offline
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Question Start dating a mutual friend

Hi all!

This is my first post. I checked a bunch of others and it seems like a great community.

My partner (B) and I (Married for almost 9 years) have just started to have an open relationship. Previously we were swingers, but never dated people or had romantic relationships outside each other. She is not sure she is poly yet, but she has already had quite a bit of fun on her first date, so we will see what happens.

We have kept things totally honest and open - when, who, how, why we are interested in people. We even chat about our dates.

I have been going out with one woman for a few weeks and it's been pretty fun and B has been fine with as far as I know. Today I mentioned that I had talked to a mutual friend we have (for the last 9 years) about poly, and the friend expressed interest in possibly dating.

B is worried it will negatively impact their friendship or at least put a strain on it. I don't have to date the other woman, but I would really like to especially since we are leaving the country in about 3 months and I know I won't have the chance again. I also know the other woman will have no problem continuing to be friends with my partner.

I'm not going to force it because it's not worth the relationship harm between anyone of us. I do love the other woman, though, and I was pretty excited to be able to have what would be a really rewarding polycule. Obviously, it wouldn't be rewarding if it was causing a rift, though.

My question is, what can I do to make this easier? Does anyone have experience in the transition from old mutual friend to new partner?

Sorry if this has been addressed. I couldn't find any matches when I searched.

Thanks in advance. Much love to ya'll!
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